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Subject: and another thing Posted Date: Friday, January 27, 2006 - 8:07 AM

Another thing,

Kids.

It seems awfully irresponsible to have kids. Not in general. Me, in specific. I have never been entirely overenamored about contributing to the species, frankly, we seem to be in the bonus round for survival and I don't think my 2 cents is all that special- although if we are evolving back into the water, I think I offer some novel improvements on that basic human psysiology. But I digress.

Should someone who has an inheritable mental disease have kids? I guess cancer patietns have kids, even prostrate cancer which is suffered from nearly 50% of men. Sufferers of MS, and otehr diseases which have a strong genetic component have kids. It is not a case of me not wanting to polute the gene pool, but really, do I want to have that conversation with my son or daughter when they start to go off? Do I want to apologize to them while they enter their own fun lives of disperceptions and mental digression? Do I want to watch them everyday for tell tale signs?

I guess a lot of this hinges on the efficacy of treatment. If I am able to reverse and improve the mental imbalances, I suppose then I can assume that similar miracles could be worked on my kids. Then, I guess, I am only tellign them they better enjoy dry swallowing pills because they have about 80 years of it ahead of them. But this from the guy who has recurring nightmares of my 5'6 son jumping up from the table and accursing me of his condition while my 5'4 wife looks on. What do I tell this child "Sh*t kid, sorry you are crazy, tough luck.". What if they are worse than I am- cuase god knows I have met people worse off than I and they live in institutions and have limited lives of suffering.

Maybe I can add a poll to this page?

At what point does one tell the person in whom they're interested? The beginning? The middle, after the wedding night? Kids are a deal breaker. They are very important, and even those of us who claim not to want them at all, when we reach a certain age, the idea has new meaning and our basic life programming cannot be denied. Besides that they are cute and qualify for half price movie tickets. But what percentage of women would think I am so charming they will forgo motherhood? I guess anyone special enough to date a schizo would be special enough to deal with an empty house with me. I would, however, always be worried about the afterthoughts.

and don't tell me about adoption. I have seen enough messy adoption cases to be scared of that. And my wife/partner/lover/bitch/cosmic soulmate/other half/whatever's pregnancy by another man? I guess that's fine...But she would have to be cool with that, and I want a veto on the sperm.&